Are You A Victim of Emotional Abuse?

Answer the following questions to help determine whether or not you are being emotionally, financially, physically abused in your relationship.

1. Do you feel you must “get permission” before going some-where or before making even the smallest of decisions? This is controlling behaviour.

2. Do you have to account for any money you spend, or does he attempt to control your spending (even though he has no problem spending on himself)? Does he control your income or joint account? This is economical abuse.

3. Does he demand that you get money from your parents or give him your own savings to pay for his family or purchases. Did he demands expensive gifts for him and his family or cash at your wedding. This is dowry abuse.

4. Does your partner treat you as if you are “less than” or inferior to him. Does your partner make a point of reminding you that you are less educated or that you make less money or that you aren’t as attractive as he is?

5. Does your partner routinely ridicule, dismiss, or disregard your opinions, thoughts, suggestions and feelings?

6. Does your partner constantly belittle your accomplishments, your aspirations or your plans for the future?

7. Have you stopped seeing many or all of your friends and/or family since being in this relationship?

8. Does your partner feels jealous of the time you spend with friends/family?

9. Does your partner usually insist on getting his or her own way? Does he want to be the one to decide where you will go, what you will do, and with whom you will do it?

10. Does your partner punish you by pouting, by withdrawing from you, by giving you the silent treatment, or by withholding affection or sex if you don’t do things his way?

11. Does your partner frequently threaten to end the relationship if you don’t do things her way? Or threaten to withdraw the sponsorship of your visa

12. Does your partner constantly accuse you of flirting or of having affairs even though it isn’t true?

13. Does your partner feel he or she is always right?

14 Does your partner frequently put you down or make fun of you in front of others?

15. Does your partner blame you for his or her problems? Does he blame you for his drinking, or not being able to finish college or fulfil his dream of becoming an actor (author, musician, singer, etc.)?

16. Does your partner feel you are the one who is responsible for all the problems in the relationship?

17. Does your partner find it difficult or impossible to apologize or admit when he is wrong? Does she make excuses for her behaviour or tend to blame others for her mistakes?

18. Does your partner threaten violence by throwing things around or has he ever hit you, pushed, shoved, strangled?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, it means that you have been a victim of abuse. Please seek help before it is too late . It will increase own self-respect.

Visit your GP. The first step is – It needs total honesty within oneself and with your doctor.